Keep It Healthy Over Everything

I had recently spoke with one of  my best friends , and she had decided that she was going to start blogging. I mentioned to her that I had blog since 2011 and only had like five post. There was no need to explain why those post seemed to come sporadically but it did give me an idea to start writing again and posting my thoughts and sharing life lessons.  I believe that our ultimate gift in life is to share our highs and lows and hope that our story can make someone  laugh , give some one hope and more importantly put our flawed selves out there. Because one thing I can respect is that I am flawed and I am now learning to be okay with that.  With that being said you can expect a blog post from me twice a month.

  Any way lets  move to the real reason Why I am up at 8:34 am considering the fact that I am not  working now . For the past few weeks I have really been  adamant about dealing with the things that we keep hidden the things that have shaped and molded the way that we talk , think  and process information.  Honey I wish I could say that with age comes wisdom but for some it just does not happen that way . Wisdom comes when you make the chose to seek it out.The struggle of being misunderstood has been a blessing and a curse in my life. As a child I felt misunderstood , as a teenager I felt misunderstood and even as an adult that is still one of my struggles. Since I craved being understood it made me angry when someone would misinterpret what I said or took it out of context and instead of admitting that guess what ladies and gentleman I would get so pissed off and shut down. And most of the time it made me not want to talk to the other person again , or I would just cut them out of my life no explanation , no closure just give them the boot. Now when you are young that may seem like the right thing to do but as you get older and mature you just realize that you can not keep processing information or conflicts in that way.  Now some of those people probably needed to be escorted to the nearest exit of my life however shutting down and behaving like a 12 year old child is not the habit that a grown woman should have it just isn't cute or funny.

Instead what I have chosen to do now is learn to process my emotions differently , through being honest with myself first, others second , writing in my journal , and being comfortable with who I am.  Most of time its not the thought of being misunderstood that is the problem its fact that you may be struggling with something else. For me being misunderstood was the same as not being accepted for who I am. Now , lets be clear everyone will not like you , everyone will not understand you and that is fine but what is important is that you understand who you are , what you can give in any relationship, job, situation and learn to be okay with that.  Healing starts with you first when you can deal with your own hang ups other people mess  will not matter.

Search your journal ,search your heart ,search those difficult moments and uncover the unhealthy patterns that has kept you from living your best life . Until next time my loves ,keep it healthy over everything


Woman on the move
Marrissia